Yes, and yes! I see some trends through time and for both Rays that I've seen in other pairings, and I've seen both of them sometimes depicted as weak, or manipulated. Buh? Why would that be? They are both strong, competent, reasonably self assured, smart, professional, physically powerful guys. While Fraser does have the force of larger than life experience with a side of what a lot of people loosely call magical realism, I have never, never seen him as abusive, controlling, or even especially manipulative. I find stories that put either Ray into the weak position, or make Fraser into a crazy bully terribly offputting. I find both of those themes much more prevalent in older, "old school" slash anyway.

I don't subscribe to the "take Fraser down a peg" school of thought at all, but my fondness for unwinding him, and letting him accept a more receptive role, and the relaxation that goes with it....well, that pleasure is coming from an entirely different emotional place.