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Hear, hear! I actually often prefer the one who seems a little more "macho" to bottom, it's a total kink for me. I like that character to receive a lot of caring and pleasure, to have an opportunity to let go more, and to show more vulnerability and trust. Huge emotional kink for me.

Oh, me too! You have expressed it delightfully. Especially the implication that they have to open up more...that's my big emotional kink, getting the more reticent one to be open, to accept that they deserve pleasure and love, and to be forced to lose that tight control in their pleasure.

Of course, Fraser's extreme control makes him such a tempting target for that; I just can't resist.

I just re-watched "The Vault" last night, where RayV forces Fraser to admit that sometimes "just sometimes, mind you" he feels a little unappreciated. Hahah.

I had to resist kissing my laptop screen. :)